I don't often reflect on my upbringing. I feel as if the way I live my life now is so much better that reflecting on my childhood is a meaningless exercise. But for the purpose of today, I will revisit the earlier times of my youth as I place it within the context of Annette Lareau's Unequal Childhoods.
I lived in a small household with my grandparents, aunt, mother, and eventually sister. Because we were a working class family, my upbringing initially resembled what Lareau refers to as "natural growth." I was mostly issued directives, and when I was told to do something, I had no right to question it; I had to trust the authority of my older, wiser family members.
This attitude followed me into the classroom and I never questioned teachers or disputed their directives either.
Along with the idea of natural growth, my parents never really scheduled my free time. I spent most of my time playing outside at home with neighborhood friends instead of participating in structured activities. I did a few recreational things such as swimming lessons and basketball, but the cost of these things was not high.
Yet, a part of my childhood seems to reflect what Lareau refers to as "concerted cultivation" as well. Every Christmas, I woke up to abundance of gifts, and when I asked for something I wanted, I often got what I wanted, although compromises and conditions were often set: e.g. I can have this only once a month or only if I get good grades. I was spoiled for the most part though.
When I look at the IHAD kids, I mainly see concerted cultivation. Their time with Jazz and Danielle is highly structured and organized. All their activities are scheduled, and disobedience has consequences. I imagine their time outside of the program is likely more reflective of natural growth where they are free to run around and be kids. Having a balance between the two seems the most reasonable, but that may not be an option for most families.